2017 is just about a month in. For most people, this is the time that your New Years resolutions start to go out the window. We all live busy lives filled with family, friends, school, and work (except for me, because I’m a blogger now so I don’t work). These are the reasons we can never accomplish the things we say we are going to, because life gets in the way. These things are more important, and a higher priority than anything else. At least this is what we say, right? Well, I’m calling bullshit on that, and here’s why. You are scared.
The psychological term for it is “avoidance.” Now I’m no psych, so don’t go quoting me on that, but I’ve been to enough therapy sessions to know that what I see in myself is happening to others. Change is hard, change is scary, but change is necessary. How we VIEW change is the most important aspect. For most people, personal growth is just not a priority. Most people will not do whatever is necessary to take that step off the proverbial diving board into the deep end. As I mentioned before, this is because of fear. However, it’s not the fear of not being able to swim that is plaguing you. It is the fear of the free fall. The moments before you hit the water, and your brain has induced the idea that you may just belly flop, embarrass yourself in front of that hot life guard (do they exists besides in the movies?), and swim away with the absolute worst stinging throughout your entire front side of your body (I could have gotten descriptive there, but I refrained myself).
Do you see where I am going with this? It is the process that is scary. It is the thought that you may just fail! Newsflash, THAT’s OKAY! We all know by now that failure is a part of life. It happens, it happens a lot, it happens often, heck it happens daily! In fact, I encourage mistakes. If I don’t make one mistake daily, that means I am not putting myself in a position to grow. So, as some president (I think it was a president?) famously once said, “There is nothing to fear, but fear itself.”
Whether it is subconscious, or starring you right in the face, this fear is going to hold you back. So what do you do about it? You PRIORITIZE (finally getting to the point of this article). When the ball drops to officially make it the new year, you have all these thoughts of hope and change, and how this year will FINALLY be the year you ________ (fill in the blank). However, these plans drift off and blow away in the wind with the confetti at Times Square. You know deep down inside what you want out of your life, but you allow other things and people to get in the way. If you really want to lose weight, then DO IT. The fear of falling into bad habits, causes you to do exactly that.
Prioritizing our life isn’t as difficult as you think. You just need to know how to do it. What I recommend is taking all of your goals, hopes and dreams, and putting them down on paper. Once they are down on paper, then they are real. When they are in your head, they are just ideas floating around in your brain’s cloud. However, once you get it down on paper, they are legit. There’s no turning back at this point. Once you see all of your goals, new years resolutions, or whatever you want to call them – you can then see what is the most important to you. Start to order them from the most important to the least important.
Once you have your list of priorities, start to prioritize your priorities. Let’s say you have 10 goals on that list. Take the top 9, and throw them away! In reality, you can only focus and crush one big goal at a time. Make that one goal your priority; eat, sleep, and dream of that one goal. Make adjustments in your life to accommodate it, and don’t take no for an answer. If you need to sacrifice “you” time, then do it! Remember, anything that is working on getting to that goal, IS “you” time. There is so much more on this topic that I can talk about, but I am going to leave you with this one final thought. If you are going to belly flop, don’t you want to do it from the highest diving board? At least you will be remembered.