I recently wrote about prioritizing your goals. This is a practice that has to be done on a day in and day out process. Whatever your priorities are, make them YOUR priorities. Living by someone else’s standards, playing by someone else’s rules, being someone you are not is the fast track to mediocrity. How can you fully live a life of freedom, if you aren’t free to truly be yourself?
How can you fully live a life of freedom, if you aren’t free to truly be yourself?
The spectrum of self awareness is very broad with many pit stops, downfalls, successes and failures along this path of discovery. As frustrating as this path is, it is one that must be traveled to discover personal freedom. To many people get stuck on a path that someone else is plowing ahead for them. Your path must be yours, and yours alone. We can share a common road map with others, but only YOU can travel YOUR road alone. Often times your path will change, come to a dead end, take a U-turn and get stuck in a roundabout. This is a good thing, because each time your path changes you will learn through experience how to re-route your GPS.
The only way to take control of your future, is to let go of your present fears. Fears are irrational ways our brain likes to keep us conforming to everyone else. This is the safe route. This is the way we have been taught since we were a kid. You either fit in with the rest of the kids in school, or be singled out as a “weirdo” or “loser.” Well speaking from one of those “weirdos” who grew up to break free from those chains, and make a life that is on my terms, with my visions and plans, and with my own mission, all I have to say is fuck fear.
Fear controlled the better part of my life. Every opportunity I would have to show the world around me who I truly was, I would be hesitant to do so. I would start to develop my own voice, just to fall victim to the safe and comfortable route. This is why I failed at practically everything in my life. I would follow the path of someone else, because it was easy. There were no obstacles of judgement, because the judgement was being put on someone else. This is a great way to develop resentment for yourself, your friends, loved ones and basically everything and everyone around you. Depression quickly follows, and your life turns into one big conforming spiral of self-destruction.
Self-destruction shows up in many forms. For some it is drinking, other gambling, many like to do drugs or outcast themselves from virtually everyone. However, the form of self-destruction that does the most damage is the type that no one, not even yourself can see until it consumes your life. This is the type that I fell into… avoidance through conformity. Life is easy when you live your life on someone else’s terms. It is, at least, on the surface.